Why Holding On Is Holding You Back
Just the other day, I was taking my morning bike ride through the park when I hit a narrow strip of sidewalk and my front wheel just barely slipped off. In an attempt to correct my mistake, I lost balance and proceeded to tip my bike over and go sliding along the path. After I came to a stop I stood up, embarrassed, and tried to gain my composure as my body shook like a leaf from the shock.
I looked down and saw that my hands were bleeding and raw from road rash and my right hip ached. I immediately started crying as the pain set in.
The rest of the day followed suit and my plans when out the window. If you’ve never tried getting ready and rushing out the door with one arm, let me tell you- it ain’t easy! All day, I was hurrying from one appointment to another, dealing with my car breaking down, running the entire farmer’s market with one hand, and unable to complete some really important tasks because I was in so much pain.
Needless to say, at the end of the day I was exhausted.
Once I got home and laid on the couch, I started thinking about what a disaster of a day I’d had. I started to realize that sometimes, no matter what we have planned, things don’t work out. It’s in those times that the only thing to do is to let go.
Years ago, I went to a holistic practitioner who would always repeat to me, “Let go and let God. Let go and let Spirit flow.” And while it sounded so powerful and soothing in his weathered Australian accent, I didn’t know the first thing about how to actually let go.
Once I realized that I really don’t have control over anything in life except for myself, I took on this phrase as a mantra in my life.
Sitting in traffic. Let go and let God.
Waiting for a guy to call me. Let go and let God.
Getting really sick. Let go and let Spirit flow.
Quitting a job. Let go and let God.
Hateful words from someone. Let go and let Spirit flow.
Striving to have perfect health. Let go and let God.
Wrecking my bike. Let go and let Spirit flow.
After repeating this manta over and over again to myself, I eventually went from saying it to consciously living it. I’m definitely not perfect at this. In fact I’ve still got a long way to go.
The greatest part though, is what happens when you let go. The freedom that comes when you release something that has power over you is unlike any other feeling in the world. More often than not, I’ve found that I can’t actually get what I’m wanting unless I release it and let it go first.
It seems backwards, but the thing that you’re holding onto the most might be the thing that is holding you back. I just experienced this a few months ago when I was hitting a wall with my health. As soon as I let go of trying to be perfect and living out of fear, my health changed drastically… almost overnight.
Question: What do you need to let go of in your life? What are you holding onto that is no longer serving you? How have you successfully let go of things in the past? Let me know in the comments below.
I choose to let go of control and let life unfold as it will.